6 Ways to Teach Discipline to 2 to 5-Year-Old Children
One, this is clear that education is the second most important thing you can offer your little one. The first is love.
The specialist explains that a child who has been taught self-control knows his limits and is self-confident.
However, a child without this learning is likely to have bad behavior and might have the feeling that people don’t love him. Try to stop him every time he makes a tantrum, say a “bad word” or fight with some other child. Love is the way to teach him.
Take into account that physical punishment is not an option. The only thing children learn when their parents beat them is to swallow resentment, to hide the anger, and not respect them. Violence does not solve anything.
Even if you try to avoid it, you will feel tempted. Before doing so, breathe and try to have an extra dose of patience and control. Do not forget that your task as a mother or father is to educate rather than punish.
Ways to Teach Discipline
- Rules: Tell them what the rules to follow. Do it in advance. If you break it, keep a firm position so that you understand that the rules were made to comply with them.
- Moderate the “NO”: How? To deny him everything he does is not right. That “NO” will lose relevance.
- Consistency: When you have the task of teaching discipline with love, you must remain calm but be firm. Be consistent and keep the rules as the first day you defined them. For example: if your child should feed the dog every day, let him do it. Do not become careless in monitoring. Children must learn that they have responsibilities.
- The thinking chair: If your child loses control, send him to the thinking chair. There you must stay for a few minutes. Make sure nothing distracts you. Don’t have toys nearby. Once the time of the “punishment” is over, explain why what he did is wrong and tell him that until he can stop by himself, you will send him to that place.
- Assign responsibilities: We recommend that mothers assign responsibilities starting at age 4. Of course, they will be according to their age.
- Repetitive behaviors: Ask yourself what things might be causing my child to act that way. For example, children ages 4 to 5 usually lie. Understand why they do it, and if you have to correct it, do it.
Some of the Factors that Motivate the Child from 2 to 4 Years to be Disobedient
Call attention: Be patient because in your responsibility to educate in values with discipline with love, you have to be aware not only when your child misbehaves but how he does it throughout the day. Otherwise, he will not want to listen to your demands.
Do not misunderstand: When your child reaches the dreaded stage of the two years, he usually says “no,” but corresponds to a scene of knowledge rather than disobedience.
- Receive more than two orders at once.
- Does not understand what you ask.
- He knows that you will repeat the indication several times before he responds.
Tips to Educate Disobedient Children
1. As your mother or father, you need to set clear standards
The child must know what will happen if he disobeys. For example, say “I will only ask you once, and if you do not, you will have consequences”; the latter will go according to the age of the child and his behavior, they can vary: go to the chair to think, not watch your favorite TV show, not go out to the playground to play, do not use video games.
2. Correct immediately
Do not let time pass. Do not fall for their manipulations, or respond to their complaints. Act directly and do it at the moment the act of disobedience happens.
3. Use nonverbal language
You will not need to raise your voice, much less speak; look at it firmly and securely so that you realize that your attitude does not exceed the limits.
4. Threaten him
Jenny Anduquia, a graduate in special education mentions in her blog Pedagogical Support that threats are not active and you will only get two opposite effects: your child will ignore you because he will know they are empty words, without consequences, or affect him so much that it ends up being a child with fears.
If you are a mother, you will agree that it manifests itself when you hear phrases such as: “I did not hear you,” “I’m almost there, wait a moment” or “I forgot” which work as excuses for not doing tasks or requests previously imposed.
When you try to apply positive discipline, but your child refuses to learn it, you will know that he is a disobedient child because:
- He becomes deaf.
- Says “no” explicitly.
- It emits expressions of the type of “now I go,” “then I do it,”; that rarely meets.
- It is expressed with tantrums.
The worst mistake parents make is not to maintain the punishment for disobedience.
Behind a bad behavior, there must be a consequence. If you want this bad behavior not to be repeated, impose punishment, and do not sabotage yourself. If, on the contrary, you want a good action to be repeated, you will have to award it a prize.